Let’s Talk Fertility ~Part 3 of my Birth Hypnosis Interview

Let’s Talk Fertility ~Part 3 of my Birth Hypnosis Interview

In the last part of my interview on If Only They’d Told Me, I talk with Natalie about how hypnosis can help with fertility, and share the results of an amazing study where hypnotic relaxation alone increased the success rates of an IVF procedure by 50%! Trying to get pregnant?  Hypnosis helps Fertility N. And fertility – can we just talk about that for a little bit because there are obviously lots of people out there that are wanting to get pregnant and are just struggling with it, some people going down IVF and other routes.  So you can help people that are struggling with fertility? R. Yes.  I do.  Whether that is working alongside them when they are doing the IVF process – for example: there was a study done in Israel where, just at the time of implantation, purely by being in hypnotic relaxation (none of the other hypnotherapy that you do normally with fertility sessions, but just being hypnotically relaxed at implantation alone) had a 50% success rate over the control group, so in other words the women who had had hypnosis at the time of implementation, 50% more of them got pregnant through the IVF than those who didn’t have the hypnotic relaxation. N. Yeah it seems (I haven’t been through it myself but I’ve got a lot of friends who have been) and it seems to be quite a clinical medical experience and so, having something like hypnosis to… R. It is.  And it’s a very stressful process.  And the way stress works is, if you think back to the day where we had to...
Let’s talk birth ~ part 2 of my Birth Hypnosis Interview

Let’s talk birth ~ part 2 of my Birth Hypnosis Interview

Here’s the 2nd part of my interview on If Only They’d Told Me, with Natalie Cutler-Welsh. We talk more about hypnosis for birth, and how it can help regardless of whether you are feeling reasonably relaxed about the prospect of labour or if you are terrified or if you have had a previously traumatic birth experience. If you missed part 1 let’s talk phobia’s you can read it here. So let’s talk about labour. What are the women that you work with afraid of and how do you change that for them? R. Well, pain is the biggest one, and it’s not surprising. We’re conditioned to believe through everything we see on TV, everything our well-meaning friends tell us, is that childbirth has to be painful. So pain is probably the biggest fear. I mean, there are some concerns about, you know, that their lifestyles are going to change, they’re going to be a parent, what are they going to do with the baby – but in terms of confidence, the biggest fear I see is the childbirth pain, and it’s a real thing. We are conditioned to believe it has to be painful, so our subconscious mind has that belief. For some people they might feel quite relaxed during the pregnancy about the prospect of giving birth, but because it’s something that’s been conditioned and tagged and imprinted on our subconscious mind, occasionally what you find is that someone, when in the onset of labour, it’s suddenly triggered and they become very, very fearful. Now when we’re fearful we’re producing things in our bodies, some chemicals and stuff,...
Let’s talk phobia’s ~ part 1 of my Birth Hypnosis interview

Let’s talk phobia’s ~ part 1 of my Birth Hypnosis interview

During my interview on If Only They’d Told Me we touched on phobias and a client I worked with who had aquaphobia (a fear of water) who now happily finds being in water a pleasurable activity, and is enjoying the freedom that brings. A phobia is a high anxiety response such as fear or panic to an object (e.g. snakes), a situation (e.g. public speaking) or even a thought (e.g. if the plane hits turbulence I’ll panic). Fears and phobias are learned responses that are formed as an imprint by the part of our brain designed to keep us safe.  When it perceives an experience to be a threat it learns to create fear and anxiety symptoms next time we encounter a similar situation with the aim of acting as a warning system to keep us safe.  All of this happens outside our conscious awareness – it has to because if you are in a situation that your survival depends on quick action, you don’t have time to consciously ponder your options, you need to be mobilised for action (i.e. fight or flight). Sometimes this process means we can learn to have an out of proportion response to things or situations.  Fortunately because phobias are learned, when you access the part of your brain that is responsible for creating the phobic imprint you can just as easily unlearn the phobia. So here’s part one of the transcript from my Birth Hypnosis podcast interview with Natalie Cutler-Welsh on If Only They’d Told Me, which includes us talking about phobia’s… N. Hi, I’m Nat and welcome back to another episode of If...
Working with a Hypnotherapist

Working with a Hypnotherapist

Working through a phobia has helped me experience more freedom and stress relief by Vanessa Davey, CEO Venus Network, as featured in the Venus Magazine, Winter 2014 Before working with Rebecca ~ the problem An incident when I was eleven years old left me with a phobia of staying home alone overnight. My 15 year old sister and I were home alone one evening when I heard a noise outside our lounge window. Not thinking what I’d actually see if I looked, I went and checked out what the noise was. As I opened the curtains I saw a prowler running away from the deck, and the chair that he had been sitting in watching us had been pulled up to the window and was rocking from his swift departure. In that moment I made a very unconscious decision to not stay home alone, again, ever. At 39 years old it had finally become rather inconvenient to feel this way. No matter how many coaching conversations I had, I couldn’t seem to get to the heart of the matter. My husband was spending more nights away tramping as he’d recently picked up this new sport. I now needed to overcome this so I could enjoy my time home alone and not dread it. Working with Rebecca ~ the experience It was around this time that I was having a RAVE with Rebecca and she talked about phobias and how we just live with some of them thinking the fear is normal. In that moment I clicked that the petrified 9/10 crazy-scared feeling that comes over me staying home alone, isn’t actually normal...
Transform your words, transform your reality

Transform your words, transform your reality

How is it that a bunch of letters arranged into a word can carry so much power? Because the words we choose to use, or more accurately what we associate to these words, can evoke emotions and physical sensations that carry great meaning when we hear them. You see, the words that you hear or use to represent an experience ultimately become your experience. And these words we use to label our experiences also actually have the ability to increase or decrease the intensity of the emotions we feel. For example, imagine when something happens that angers you – if you said quite colourfully that it “really f$#ked you off and made you furious” – these become associations which most likely serve to intensify the anger you feel. On the flipside, you could decrease the emotion by saying that it “bothered you a smidgen”, or “tinkled you” – and these such frivolous labels can even change your emotional state completely because they’re rather amusing! Simple word substitutions like these alter our perception of things. For example, imagine the positive shift in your confidence if you classified the “nervous anxiety” you feel before a big presentation as “excited anticipation”. We’ve tagged associations to words at a subconscious level, and because of this people can link tremendous levels of pain, anxiety and even fear to particular words. I know with ophidiophobia (fear of snakes) clients, just hearing the word “snake” can make their skin crawl or even trigger anxiety symptoms. Another example is a client I worked with who had experienced two traumatic childbirths. In our first session, just mentioning the...